From the Foreword of the 12 & 12: “A.A.’s Twelve Steps are a group of principles, spiritual in their nature, which, if practiced as a way of life, can expel the obsession to drink and enable the sufferer to become happily and usefully whole.”
of this Step:
“Nothing counted but thoroughness and honesty.” (Big Book, Page 65, How It Works)
What Can I Surrender in this Step?
1.) The delusion that in and of myself I have power, and
2.) The belief that alcohol is my problem
When we first walked into the rooms of A.A., we thought our lives were unmanageable because when we drank, we wound up in strange places, with strange people, in strange positions (some of us – literally). How grateful we were when our sponsor, or other caring members of the Fellowship, helped us fully understand what co-founder, Bill W. meant in More About Alcoholism (top of page 35 in the Big Book – 4th Edition) when he said, “So we shall describe some of the mental states that precede a relapse into drinking, for obviously this is the crux of the problem.”
We are grateful that we were helped to understand that our mental states, or our thinking, WAS/IS the crux of our problem. Selfishness/Self-Centeredness! That, we are told, is the root of our troubles (not alcohol). Driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity, we go to the only thing that has proven to provide us the release we seek from these “fleeting forms” – alcohol.
If we ever need proof of our powerlessness over “a seemingly hopeless state of mind and body” (which is one definition of alcoholism), all we have to do is look at the many examples of how our life was unmanageable while drinking – and how it wasn’t the alcohol that made our life unmanageable.
Interesting Side Note: Step 1 is the only step that talks about alcohol. The remainder of the Steps share solutions on how to deal with what the REAL problem is – the noise that lives between my left ear and my right ear (more commonly referred to as our defects of character).
Admitting powerlessness is a crucial step on the path to freedom and strength. It takes honesty and courage to accept that alcohol has taken over your life.
Step 1 is the only step we ever take 100% and once taken, we don’t have to ever take it again. Once you admit to your inner most self that your’e an alcoholic – you can’t “un-admit” that. Once you get completely honest and tell the truth – that truth never changes. Once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic.
Taking a step displays a willingness to write inventory and allow it to surrender something within us. Write inventory on your most serious shortcomings around the practical application of this step in your life today (“How am I applying the principle found in this Step to every moment of my life?”).
List three (3) examples of how your personal relationships have become unmanageable as a result of your behavior (prior to getting sober – or in sobriety).
List three (3) examples of how your work relationships have become unmanageable as a result of your behavior (prior to getting sober – or in sobriety).
List three (3) examples of how your relationship with God and my participation in A.A. has become unmanageable as a result of your behavior (since getting sober).
(If you can answer yes to these questions, you’ve likely taken this Step)
Moderate Drinkers Answer “No” To Most, If Not All, Of These Questions 🙂